"Nobody cares" isn't the way to put it. It's more fair to say it isn't on their radar until you put it there.
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But when things are bad, it's hard to make the effort to put your pain on someone else's radar so, in the moment, it might seem to you like nobody cares.
"Other people have it worse", "but you dont have a REASON to be depressed", "what have you got to be depressed about?", "just: change your diet/sleep better/ do more exercise/ be happy".
Ask yourself this- what does it mean to care about another human being? If you love your sibling so much you’d die for them- but you won’t die for someone across the globe you’ve never met- is that care truly altruistic is it just that you have an investment and attachment to this one particular person- and that in your mind you’d simply rather die than live without them? Like- if two people would both die so the other could live- if two people both can’t beat the thought of outliving the other- is it selfless to give your life for theirs or is it selfish because it saves you grief and puts it on them?
Is it just your sense of self identity that tells you that you couldn’t live with yourself- with the failure or the affront to your sense of justice or image as selfless if you don’t sacrifice yourself?
This is relevant because put simply- most people don’t spend much time thinking about humanity- they think about people they know. Most people faced with a choice to let the one they love most die to save the one another lives most live; or let the others love die to save their own will choose to save the one they love no?
It is through personal relationships we view the world. Who is this person to me? How do they make me feel? What do they do for me? What place do they hold in my life? Nike, Nestle, so many other companies are doing fine despite the fact we know there is a human cost to what we do. The world is full of holes with free space and the streets are somehow full of homeless still.
Because no person on earth has the mental, physical, political, and financial resources to take on every problem- and we only get one life so if we are willing to sacrifice it for any problem faced by anyone- our species wouldn’t last long. Every one of us save for some with astronomical luck comes from a long line of creatures that did what they had to do to survive, breed, and make sure their offspring did the same.
So by default- a person who doesn’t know you need help can’t and won’t help you. More over- asides providing support and being there for you- there isn’t anything much anyone can do for a persons struggling mental health unless they can write prescriptions or are a skilled councilor. Those who aren’t are just people- some are better at being there, being supportive, showing love. People do these things the ways they know how and those ways aren’t always the ways we need or want them to be expressed- but it’s what they have to give.
It’s so hard to help yourself and get help when your mind and brain chemistry are fighting you. Steady kind words and encouragement and just spending time can save lives. But I can’t approve of this message. People who care about you will tend to offer whatever help they know how- but only if they know or realize there is a problem. They will dedicate their resources to you but only as much as able and as much as they think is needed. People can’t always drop everything in life or focus their 100% effort into anything they see as a possible problem.
If you are struggling there is someone out there who loves you- and there are people out there who haven’t gotten to know you yet but will love you given the chance. There are people who will do their very best to help you- their very best may not be good enough but they’ll try. If simply loving a person or being kind to them cured depression that would be the most prescribed thing in America. Depression isn’t that simple...
.. and fairy tale logic that if anyone truly cared they could “break the spell” is destructive. It tells anyone who is depressed or struggling that the fact they are feeling that way is it’s own proof that no one cares or that they are merely someone’s problem or annoyance. You are not a problem to be solved. You are not a burden and you are cared about. At some point you’ll need to dig deeper than you thought possible and help yourself- but you need to keep reminding yourself this isn’t who you are. It’s a state that can change. Things can and do get better- if even a little bit for a little while. Hang in and don’t blame yourself, don’t blame others. Blame the disorder and fight it.
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But when things are bad, it's hard to make the effort to put your pain on someone else's radar so, in the moment, it might seem to you like nobody cares.