Usually not with anyone I've met (I'm terrible at paying attention to people I don't have direct interactions with), but I've had the occasional random famous person turn up in my dream for no bloody reason, with no relevant context. "Oh.. Hi side-character person from that movie I saw 3 years ago. Didn't realize you were still around.. Glad you could make it to this level of my subconscious, I guess."
Not my business, and asking genuinely, have you considered talking to a therapist or someone about all this? Not that you have to answer, but I've noticed you mention her a lot on here, and if you're dreaming about her to that extent, and often, it would imply psychological trauma to me. Idk, I'm just a random person on the Internet, but talking to someone might help
Yeah, I have, still do actually. I have ptsd and depression and anxiety, she actually had me so stressed that I developed a heart condition. She really screwed me up, never gonna happen again, I will not put my mental or physical health on the line again for anyone. I've actually learned to sleep through those dreams in the last year by seizing control and interrupting the dream.
Is the ptsd from her, too? Again, don't feel obliged to answer. She sounds like an absolute nightmare wretch of a human being tbh. :/ I'm glad to hear the cancer has been properly removed from your life and you're on the road to recovery. Hopefully when/if you find someone again, it will be a much better experience (I say if because I think I remember you saying you don't really plan on being in a relationship again, but I might have you mixed up with someone else).
Hopefully she never comes near you or your kid again. And I'm glad you have some ability to handle your dreams, also. It's never happened to me, but I know some people get so locked in their nightmares they never quite manage to go "Okay. Remember. This isn't real. We can get out of this just fine." Or some other version of that
Not entirely, I had a very bad experience in childhood that lead to a suicide attempt at age 8, that sure didn't help much. but yeah a vast amount of it was from her. I have definitely said I have no intentions on going into any more relationships, I didn't have a lot of desire before I met her, I'm perfectly content alone, always was. Yeah she is a pretty nasty excuse for a human, I haven't even scratched the surface on all she's done, I only put up with her until I could make certain that both my son and her older son would be taken away from her as she was abusive to both as well as me. I achieved my goal, so any damage physical or otherwise I sustained was worth it, two children are safe from harm and with people that actually love and protect them (mine with me and the older boy with his father) , and she is permanently blacklisted from being around kids unsupervised.
It sounds like you've been through a lot-- and she took advantage and made it all worse. I'm not glad it happened to you at all, but that you did make it out, and it is amazing that it gave you an opportunity to save two kids from such a horrific situation. And potentially many more. Sometimes the silver linings can outshine the dark clouds. It's so sad that some people can be so awful for no other reason than to be awful :/
Well, some people just are filth plain and simple, she's never shown one speck of remorse for what she's done and still regularly posts on facebook how she was such a 'great mother' and all that, even after being called out on it by a mutual (former to her) friend, who helped me pack her stuff after I kicked her out of my house. Said friend seen my physical wounds and knew flat out they were defensive in nature, and since he was a cop at the time he was able to read the report on it from the two that responded when a neighbor called 911 apparently my yelling at her to quit freaking cutting me got his attention. Ha, good memories.... Excuse me while I hide for a bit.
There seems to be so many people in the world like that these days that are nothing but vicious, selfish, cruel, and completely delusional. I've known a few people who have had encounters not anywhere near your level of violence, but with people who seem so unrepentantly malicious. It's so infuriating and depressing all at the same time.
It's good someone was there for you at least. and anyone who knows her on Facebook is smart enough to do any amount of research, though often people aren't.
She sounds terrifying and it makes a lot of sense she's given you nightmares.
At least at the end of all this you should be able to know you're stronger than her. You lived through all the hell she could throw at you and you overcame it and you're still beating her every day. Your son gets to grow up in a safe environment knowing he's loved. You did that. And you didnt just bow out and accept the abuse. You got out.
Hopefully even when you're feeling your darkest or angry or afraid you can always keep that in the back of your mind. It won't take away all the scars, but it means more than the entire world, and you deserve to remember how strong you are for all this, how much you've done, how you DESERVE to be happy, and feel protected and safe, even if her ghosts or the doubt in your mind sometimes rears up and says otherwise
I'm an involuntary solipsist, so I don't see anyone in my dreams really. I see maybe a few people directly around me, but my mind can't see other people as being important enough to even think about.
I say involuntary because I know that other people exist, but I can't seem to convince my brain that everyone around me isn't an NPC. It's probably the biggest contributer in my reduced empathy for others as no matter how much I know for an absolute fact that the person across from me is an independant being with their own life, thoughts, and past, I can't see them as that. They are still a "computer" acting out instructions.
Hopefully she never comes near you or your kid again. And I'm glad you have some ability to handle your dreams, also. It's never happened to me, but I know some people get so locked in their nightmares they never quite manage to go "Okay. Remember. This isn't real. We can get out of this just fine." Or some other version of that
It's good someone was there for you at least. and anyone who knows her on Facebook is smart enough to do any amount of research, though often people aren't.
She sounds terrifying and it makes a lot of sense she's given you nightmares.
At least at the end of all this you should be able to know you're stronger than her. You lived through all the hell she could throw at you and you overcame it and you're still beating her every day. Your son gets to grow up in a safe environment knowing he's loved. You did that. And you didnt just bow out and accept the abuse. You got out.
I say involuntary because I know that other people exist, but I can't seem to convince my brain that everyone around me isn't an NPC. It's probably the biggest contributer in my reduced empathy for others as no matter how much I know for an absolute fact that the person across from me is an independant being with their own life, thoughts, and past, I can't see them as that. They are still a "computer" acting out instructions.
It makes remembering names a nightmare.