I dont know... call me old fashioned, but I'm a little selfish with women I'm intimate with.
If it turns out that I'm "not enough" for her and she tells me that needs "more" after we get together, fine. It's just highly likely that it will be on her own.
An exception to that of course, is if at the outset, clear rules for needs, wants and desires are clearly laid out.
One girl I was involved with was Bi and didn't want to turn her back on that. She said, 'If you want me, take me as I am. I'm not changing or turning my back on that.' She also suggested as a "concession" that our relationship was open, but only if I told her about my "conquests" and invited her to "our" bed.
Granted, while we were together, that never happened and she shared the company of another woman only once, but she was one of the best women in my life.
If it turns out that I'm "not enough" for her and she tells me that needs "more" after we get together, fine. It's just highly likely that it will be on her own.
An exception to that of course, is if at the outset, clear rules for needs, wants and desires are clearly laid out.
One girl I was involved with was Bi and didn't want to turn her back on that. She said, 'If you want me, take me as I am. I'm not changing or turning my back on that.' She also suggested as a "concession" that our relationship was open, but only if I told her about my "conquests" and invited her to "our" bed.
Granted, while we were together, that never happened and she shared the company of another woman only once, but she was one of the best women in my life.