Welcome to 2015, women have the ability to make as much as men, unless they choose to have children. So if a women in spending your money it is either because you married a gold digger, you married someone with a lower economic status or because she sacrificed her income to bear your children. Either way, she is doing it with your consent.
You could stay single, marry a woman who is financially independent or not have children.
You could stay single, marry a woman who is financially independent or not have children.